Thursday, February 17, 2005

Will-power

I will not allow myself to build this up into something it isn't. I've been invited to tag along with friends of a friend to a show. That's all. It's not a date, it's two friends catching up on 15 years. There was never anything more than friendship there to begin with, so why would there be anything more now? I will not allow myself to build this up...

Yet, there's anticipation. Can't calling it yearning, can't call it longing. Gave those up, remember? Sure there's been a little flirting, but that's how I talk to anyone of the opposite sex (that I'm not related to, sicko), whether there's potential or not. No, it's nothing out of the ordinary.

What possible good could come from getting excited about this non-date? Well, yeah, but I could have had that already with half a dozen skanks at school and I know she's no skank. I want more and I have no reason to settle. Conventional wisdom says I settled last time and I will not repeat my mistakes. It's no big deal, I swear.

Ok, she says she's excited but that's just her personality, right? It doesn't change whatever chemistry does or doesn't already exist. Just because she's planning a second non-date doesn't mean anything. I haven't even been divorced a whole year. It doesn't matter when the marriage actually ended, you go from the date of the divorce, right? I just want to be friends. Don't I?

18 Comments:

At 3:18 AM, Blogger Brighton said...

I always go from the date that I actually "checked out" of a relationship. That is usually quite a while before any divorce papers were involved.
Have fun on your "non-date" date!

 
At 4:20 AM, Blogger Badaunt said...

Stop panting! I can hear you from here.

Also, when you go on this non-date, keep your tongue INSIDE your mouth. No drooling either.

re some helpful dating hints here:
http://www.zefrank.com/predate/index2.html

I imagine they work quite well for non-dates, too.

 
At 5:00 AM, Blogger Hooch said...

I certainly hope it's as of check out, seeing as I've been on my own for 3 years, but not yet divorced (that's not denial, that's me saying he can pay for the flipping thing!! alright I know I will, but I'll do it when I have spare cash...)

I so understand that anticipation... I think maybe it's a natural thing... in some ways perhaps we're even worse now than we were as teenagers... and also, once you've had a serious relationship, it can be difficult to back away from anticipating that kind of intimacy again.

I hope it is great and you feel the old heart twinges again...

 
At 8:37 AM, Blogger Zelda said...

I'm excited for you. And you might not want to forego pants for the occasion. God will understand.

 
At 10:31 AM, Blogger Mike said...

Might this "date" involve some sitting in a tree? Hmmmm? Perhaps a little K-I-S-S-I-N-G?

First comes non-date....

 
At 10:42 AM, Blogger evilsciencechick said...

1. your blogger comments are irritating. get some haloscan goodness all up in there.

2. you flirty sex talk with ALL the girls? damn. I thought it was only with me.

3. my first date with Kev was a few days after his divorce was final. now, they had been separated for almost a year, and he'd dated other people in between, yada yada. my point is, it doesnt' matter. if it clicks, it clicks. but if it doesn't, don't worry and enjoy the show!

 
At 11:32 AM, Blogger Allie#3ga said...

ESC - i thought it was just me too. damn him devil man.

 
At 11:44 AM, Blogger tinyhands said...

Brighton- That might make me wait even longer! Whose side are you on?

Theic- I checked out that site. Are you saying I look fat or gay?

Hooch- I've got to do the reverse-psychology. Any heart twinges are the result of high cholesterol.

Z- I make no guarantees, God or otherwise.

ikeMay- This from the guy who's fully cootied-up with a kid and everything.

ESC- No haloscan, no unnecessary frills. I may flirt with the other girls, but never about dairy-products.

Al- And that other thing I do for you? Only with you. :)

 
At 12:15 PM, Blogger Kate the Peon said...

Have fun tonight. That's an order.

 
At 1:15 PM, Blogger Jethro said...

Sounds like a simple night out with a friend to me. ;-) (high five, down low)

 
At 1:54 AM, Blogger mellancollyeyes said...

i too feel the sting of betrayl. i gave him Pantless Wednesdays (or any day , really) and it's used with other girls...

sigh...next thing i know, he'll be telling all the other girls about Scream Obscenities at the Drive-Thru Thursdays...

is nothing special anymore?

 
At 1:59 AM, Blogger J. said...

Dude, it's okay to look forward to your event! It's okay to feel attraction. It's okay to hope for more.

As for your question at the end? You go with your heart. When was your heart done with the marriage? BTW, it's okay to be involved with someone while you're healing. As long as they KNOW you're healing. Sometimes, they can help you see "normal" and help you heal.

Sorry, didn't mean to write a book. You'll let us know how it went, won't ya?

 
At 10:01 AM, Blogger se7en said...

knock her dead, tiger, i know ya can do it, you tha man.

just pretend like she's a bike and you know no one ever forgets how to ride bikes.... besides, don't forget your now famous phrase:

wanna ride bikes?

 
At 5:38 PM, Blogger christ*el #3tx said...

wanna have a non-date with me too?

~bean wench

 
At 6:34 PM, Blogger amy said...

funny.
hey i'm in my new home. come visit. inky

 
At 7:55 PM, Blogger Heather said...

::sniffle::...My precious tiny's all grown up and going on non-dates and stuff...

I'm jealous. It's about time I had a non-date of my own. Where are all of these available guys they're supposed to keep on college campuses?

 
At 2:50 AM, Blogger Hooch said...

So has this non-date happened?

We don't need details, just a 'thumbs up' or 'thumbs down'.

Oh hell, who am I kidding, of course we need details! *lecherous grin*

 
At 1:49 PM, Blogger tinyhands said...

Oh dear Lord, so many comments and questions! I generally like to answer you all individually, but this is what I get for not logging in every 10 minutes. Expect a full entry in the near future.

 

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