Wednesday, December 27, 2006

The one about happyness*

It is a long-established and widely-held belief that, during sexual congress (lowercase c), each participant is responsible for his or her climax. If this is so easy to believe, I wonder why so many people think it only applies during sex. I think we've all heard someone say, (and ironically, I hope someone has said it to you) "you've made me so happy," but did you know that you cannot make someone happy? If that were true, couldn't you force someone to be happy? No, that's ridiculous. Ask yourself: Does my happiness depend on someone else? Does someone else's happiness depend on me? The French novelist, Honoré de Balzac asked, "But does not happiness come from the soul within?"

'Tis the season for gifts and giving, but it's also the season for resolutions and renewal. If you're unhappy because you didn't get a PS3 for Christmas, please also realize that you're not going to be happy until you get a PS4 and then a PS5. It's a vicious cycle and obviously our culture encourages it and our economy depends on it to a certain degree. But the fact remains that these things will not make you happy. Only you can do that. I have friends who make next to nothing, and yet they have to have the latest iPods and other toys. One friend spent the last 2 years 'pimping his ride' and now that he's "done" he wants to sell it and get something better. Not because he enjoys modding his car (although I'm sure that's part of it) but because his current car is two years old and isn't the latest & greatest. My car turned 8 last month. It has less than 65k miles on it and is mostly stock. Although it still looks pretty good, I know every ding and rock-chip. I'm tempted to trade it in and get a pristine new car, but with a new car comes a new car note. In a few years I'd just want another new car so, since I know that a new car wouldn't make me happy, I do without. I wonder what my friend(s) think about me and my "old" car.

I know this is all a bit disconnected but I wanted to communicate the futility of seeking happiness in the physical realm, whether it is animal, vegetable, or mineral. I wish you all the very happiest of holidays. May you choose to find happiness in all that you already have. May you live as long as you want, yet never want as long as you live.

*I haven't seen the movie yet and, despite at least one bad review, I want to.


At 8:51 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

i see what you are getting at with this. once we can slow down and just be we might never realize that "being" is easiest and most rewarding for everyone.

At 10:03 PM, Blogger Jammie J. said...

I love how you went from sex to toys to cars. Ironically, your car is nearly impossible to have sex in. And an eight year old car like yours is classic. I still wish, sometimes, that I had my 1992 -- but alas, parts of it are probably in at least five other M1's. So I'll drive my shiny, brand new 2002. Holy crap, can you believe it's already four years old, nearly five? Eep!

I wanna see that movie, too. Even if they can't spell right.

At 11:11 PM, Blogger tinyhands said...

Amanda- I think you said that backwards, but yep.

J- I'd just like to point out that "nearly impossible" isn't "impossible."

At 12:52 AM, Blogger Jammie J. said...

Yes, yes. I intentionally left that loophole. So to speak.

At 3:04 PM, Blogger Leese said...

You have 65k on an 8-year-old car?? You are an auto insurance company's dream come true.

I am almost at 50k on my 2-year-old car.

The one before that was a 10-year-old car with 265k in it.

At 7:34 PM, Blogger tinyhands said...

J- Heh, you said "loophole"

Leese- It's got so few miles because I know a shortcut.

At 9:34 PM, Blogger Inanna said...


At 11:57 PM, Blogger Gooch said...

You can tell which of your readers hail from CA. Similar to Leese, I've had my current car for only a year and a half and it already has 40K miles. My previous car had over 200K at the 8 year mark.

At 1:14 PM, Blogger Leese said...

Hey Gooch...I guess you could've also said "you can tell which of your readers are in sales..."

At 4:37 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm happy to just to be.
Happy New YEar Notso.


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